Ukucindezeleka akusona "isifo esingelapheki," kukhumbuza ochwepheshe bezokwelapha bakwaNoulai

Lapho u-Leslie Cheung etholakala ukuthi unokucindezeleka, wake wathi kudadewabo, "Ngingacindezeleka kanjani? Nginabantu abaningi abangithandayo, futhi ngijabule kakhulu. Angikuvumi ukucindezeleka." Ngaphambi kokuzibulala, wabuza, "Angikaze ngenze lutho olubi empilweni yami, kungani kunje?"

Ezinsukwini ezedlule, umndeni womculi uCoco Lee umemezele ezinkundleni zokuxhumana ukuthi uCoco Lee ubephethwe yingcindezi iminyaka eminingana. Ngemuva kokuxinwa wukugula isikhathi eside, isimo sakhe sawohloka ngokushesha, washonela ekhaya ngoJulayi 2, ngokushona kwakhe kwenzeka ngoJulayi 5. Lezi zindaba zidilize abaningi kubasebenzisi be-inthanethi futhi zashaqisa nabanye. Kungani umuntu onjengoCoco Lee, obhekwa njengojabule futhi onethemba lokuhle, naye angaba nokucindezeleka?

Abantu abaningi banemibono ehlukile ngokucindezeleka, becabanga ukuthi bonke abanale nkinga badangele futhi abanasithakazelo ekuphileni, nokuthi abantu abajabulayo nabamomothekayo abanakuba nokucindezeleka. Eqinisweni, ukucindezeleka kunendlela yakho yokuxilonga kanye namaphethini ako okuqala nokuthuthuka. Akuwona wonke umuntu ocindezelekile oyobonisa isimo sokuphelelwa ithemba, futhi akufaneleki ukwahlulela ngokusekelwe kubuntu bangaphandle bomuntu kuphela. Abanye abantu abanokucindezeleka banakho lokho ngokuvamile okubizwa ngokuthi "ukucindezeleka okumomothekayo." Kulapho othile efihla khona imizwa yakhe yokucindezeleka ngemuva kobuso obumomothekayo, okwenza abanye bakholelwe ukuthi bajabule. Lokhu kwenza kube nzima ukubona izimpawu zokucindezeleka. Abantu abanjalo bangase bakuthwale kanzima ukuthola usizo oluvela kwabanye ngesikhathi, okungase kubangele ukuba bahlukaniswe futhi bazizwe bengasekelwa.

Ngokuthuthuka kwemfundo yezempilo yengqondo eminyakeni yamuva nje, abantu abasalazi igama elithi "ukucindezeleka." Kodwa-ke, "ukucindezeleka" njengesifo akutholanga ukunakwa nokuqonda okufanele. Kubantu abaningi, kusenzima ukuqonda nokwamukela. Kukhona ngisho nezimo zokugconwa nokusetshenziswa kabi kwaleli gama ku-inthanethi.

Indlela yokubona ukucindezeleka?

"Ukucindezeleka" kuwukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuvamile, okubonakaliswa imizwa ephikelelayo yokudabuka, ukulahlekelwa isithakazelo noma ugqozi emisebenzini eyayijabulisa ngaphambili, ukuzethemba okuphansi, nemicabango engemihle noma ukuziphatha.

Izimbangela ezibaluleke kakhulu zokucindezeleka ukuntula ugqozi nenjabulo. Kufana nesitimela silahlekelwa uphethiloli namandla, okwenza iziguli zingakwazi ukulondoloza indlela yazo yokuphila yangaphambili. Ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, izimpilo zeziguli ziyantengantenga. Abagcini nje ngokulahlekelwa ikhono labo lokuzibandakanya emisebenzini ethuthukisiwe yezenhlalo nomsebenzi kodwa futhi bahlangabezana nezinkinga ngemisebenzi eyisisekelo yomzimba njengokudla nokulala. Bangase babe nezimpawu zengqondo futhi babe nemicabango yokuzibulala. Izimpawu zokudangala ziyahlukahluka kakhulu, ngokuhlukana komuntu ngamunye, kodwa ngokuvamile zingahlukaniswa ngezigaba ezilandelayo.

01 Isimo sokucindezeleka

Ukuzizwa uphansi kuwuphawu olumaphakathi kakhulu, olubonakala ngemizwa ebalulekile neqhubekayo yokudabuka kanye nokungabi nathemba, okuhluka ngobunzima. Izimo ezithambile zingase zibe nomunyu, ukuntuleka kwenjabulo, nokuphelelwa isithakazelo, kuyilapho izimo ezinzima zingase zizizwe ziphelelwe ithemba, njengokungathi usuku ngalunye alupheli, futhi zingase zicabange ngisho nokuzibulala.

02 Ukukhubazeka kwengqondo

Iziguli zivame ukuba nomuzwa wokuthi ukucabanga kwazo sekwehlile, izingqondo zazo zingenalutho, ukusabela kwazo kuhamba kancane, futhi zinenkinga yokukhumbula izinto. Okuqukethwe emicabangweni yabo kuvame ukuba kubi futhi kungabi nathemba. Ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, iziguli zingase zithole ngisho nokukhohlisa kanye nezinye izimpawu zengqondo. Isibonelo, bangase bazisole ngokugula okungathi sína ngenxa yokungakhululeki ngokomzimba, noma bangase babe nokukhohliswa kobudlelwane, ubumpofu, ukushushiswa, njll. Ezinye iziguli zingase futhi zibone izinto ezingekho, ngokuvamile zibone izinto ezingekho.

03 Ukunciphisa ukuzikhethela

Kubonakala njengokuntula isifiso kanye nogqozi lokwenza izinto. Ngokwesibonelo, ukuphila ukuphila okuvilaphayo, ukungafuni ukuzijabulisa nabantu, ukuchitha isikhathi eside uwedwa, ukungakunaki ukuhlanzeka komuntu siqu, futhi ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, ukungakhulumi, ukunganyakazi, nokwenqaba ukudla.

04 Ukukhubazeka kwengqondo

Ukubonakaliswa okuyinhloko kuhlanganisa ukuncipha kwenkumbulo, ukunaka okuncishisiwe noma ubunzima bokufunda, ukukhumbula njalo izehlakalo ezingajabulisi zesikhathi esidlule, noma ukuhlala ugxile emicabangweni engenathemba.

05 izimpawu zomzimba

Izimpawu ezivamile zihlanganisa ukuphazamiseka kokulala, ukukhathala, ukungakuthandi ukudla, ukuncipha, ukuqunjelwa, ubuhlungu (noma yikuphi emzimbeni), ukuncipha kwe-libido, ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile, i-amenorrhea, nokungasebenzi kahle kwesistimu yezinzwa ezizimele.

Ochwepheshe bayakhumbuza: Ukucindezeleka akusona isimo esingelapheki.

UProfesa Tian Zengmin, Uchwepheshe Oyinhloko Wezifo Zezinzwa eNoulai Medical, wagcizelela ukuthi ukucindezeleka okukhulu kuyisifo, hhayi nje ukuzizwa udangele. Ngeke ixazululwe ngokuphuma nje noma uzame ukuhlala unethemba. Umbono wokuthi ukujabula nokumomotheka kungavimbela ukucindezeleka kuwumbono oyiphutha; ngezinye izikhathi abantu bangamane bakhethe ukungavezi imizwa yabo engemihle obala. Ngaphezu kwezimpawu ezinjengokuphelelwa isithakazelo okuqhubekayo, ukushintshashintsha kwemizwelo, ukukhala kalula, nemizwa yokukhathala, ubuhlungu obungokomzimba, ukuqwasha, i-tinnitus, nokushaya ngamandla kungase kube ukubonakaliswa kokucindezeleka. Ukucindezeleka, njengesifo, akulapheki. Ngosizo lochwepheshe, iziguli eziningi zingelashwa futhi zibuyele ekuphileni okuvamile. Ezigulini ezinokucindezeleka okukhulu, kubalulekile ukufuna usizo kudokotela wengqondo oqeqeshiwe kuqala, ongalungisa uhlelo lokwelapha ngokusekelwe esimweni sesiguli, kuhlanganise nemithi uma kudingekile. Uma ukwelashwa okuvamile kwehluleka, ukubonisana nodokotela ohlinzayo osebenzayo kungase kucatshangelwe ukuze kuqhutshekwe nokuhlolwa, okungase kuholele ekuhlinzweni okungenabuhlungu kancane kwe-stereotactic uma kubonakala kufanele.

Uma sinothile onokucindezeleka eduze kwethu, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi sixhumana kanjani naye. Ngokuvamile, abangani nomndeni wabantu abanokucindezeleka bangase bangakuqondi ukuziphatha kwabo ngenxa yokungaqondi ngalesi simo. Lapho usebenzisana nomuntu onokucindezeleka, abantu abaseduze nabo bangase bazizwe bengenaso isiqiniseko, besaba ukuthi bangase balimaze bengahlosile. Kubalulekile ukunikeza ukuqonda, inhlonipho, kanye nomuzwa wokuthi kuzwakala njengoba umuntu onokucindezeleka ezama ukuqondwa. Ukulalelisisa kubalulekile lapho usekela umuntu onokucindezeleka. Ngemva kokulalela, kungcono ukungangezi ukwahlulela, ukuhlaziya, noma ukusola. Ukunakekela kubalulekile ngoba abantu abanokucindezeleka bavame ukuba ntekenteke futhi badinga ukunakekelwa nokusekelwa. Ukucindezeleka yisimo esiyinkimbinkimbi esinezimbangela ezihlukahlukene, futhi abantu ngabanye abakhethi ukuhlushwa yiso. Ukusondela kulesi simo ngokunakekela nangothando kuyilapho ufuna usizo lochwepheshe kuyinkambo engcono kakhulu yokwenza. Kubalulekile ukuthi ungazithwesi umthwalo ngokucindezeleka okungokwengqondo okudlulele noma uzisole ngokungakwazi ukunikeza ukunakekelwa okwanele. Ukwelashwa okuhlelekile kudinga ukubonisana nochwepheshe abaqeqeshiwe. Odokotela bengqondo bangahlola isimo sesiguli futhi banqume ukuthi kuyadingeka yini ukungenelela kwemithi, futhi banikeze nezinhlelo zokwelashwa ezifanele. Kwezinye izimo ezinzima zokucindezeleka ezingaphenduli ekwelashweni okuvamile, ukubonisana nodokotela ohlinzayo osebenzayo kungase kudingeke.